It is said that we strongly shape our personalities based on the five people you surround yourself with the most. Do you believe that the people in your ‘inner circle’ are a good reflection of your character? Do you have that one friend that motivates you to seize every opportunity upon catching up? The influence of the people that surround you has a much greater impact than you realise.

Your work and personal life are highly influenced by your ‘inner circle’, and how they behave in their own lives. Here are the top ways to avoid creating a toxic ‘inner circle’.

1. Negative Nellies

We all have that one person in our life that always has something negative to say about life, spending more time bringing themselves (and everyone around them) down rather than enlivening the mood. While we aren’t advocating eliminating that person from your circle (he/she may have ongoing mental health issues etc.). It is important to balance out any negative thoughts within your social group with positive energy and thoughts.

2. Never be the Smartest Person in the Room

While many people strive to be the best, not having someone to look up to will hinder your growth and success. With that in mind, always aim to have someone smarter than you around, be it in your industry or another. We need mentors, teachers, or friends who constantly challenge and push us to be that little bit better. An influential ‘inner circle’ will raise the bar you had set for yourself, helping you  get to the next level on your journey to success.

3. Create Relationships with Your Idols

While online relationships are important, it is vital to focus on those relationships in the real world. Through effective networking nights and seminar attendances, you will have the opportunity to converse with your idols and role models in real life. By establishing real-world connections, you are more likely to adapt their habits and be in the know of secrets ”do’s and don’ts” that aren’t discussed at your run-of-the-mill conference.

4. The Constructive Critic

While it is beneficial to surround yourself with people who remind you of your own best qualities, it is worthwhile to keep the friendly critic around; that one friend who pushes you and gives you much-needed tough love for you to truly improve. Constructive criticism has shown to have numerous benefits, including opening your mind to new possibilities and learning to accept yourself for who you are. Furthermore, having a constructive critic in your ‘inner circle’ will teach you to be a constructive listener, allowing you to grow, and project your growth on your inner circle.

6. Be The Leader In Someone Else’s Inner Circle

While it is important to be receptive to as much advice as possible, always remember to give advice to the next generation. While you may not be the ringleader in your circle, you might be in someone else’s. Use this moment to practice what you preach and become the person you strive to be.

Your ‘inner circle’ may change from time to time, and you may be able to focus on one area more than others on occasion. To change the trajectory of your goals and ambitions, be sure to keep yourself grounded with positive and motivating people.